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Listening to: While We’re Young by Jhene Aiko 🎶

You know what five-year-olds are great at doing? Not ever wanting to do what you want them to do. Today, I am talking about routines. Trying to manage kindergartners, I have gotten used to having a structured day, with 29 individual personalities and administrators needing to know where you are, it is just easiest to have schedule and stick to it everyday.

I set my schedule at the beginning of the year, and explain it at back to school night for the parents’ sake. Of course, it is difficult to keep it exactly the same for the entire year, but for the most part, I think I do a pretty good job. (All thanks to my type A personality, I’m sure.) I like to have the parents to be aware of the timing of our schedule so when they plan doctor’s appointments and lunches with grandparents, they will know exactly  what time would be better for their child to miss. Plus, rigidity in scheduling is just great for me to keep order in a rather chaotic job.

If I had a dollar for every time a child asked me what time something was, I would be able to subsidize my teacher pay. My favorite response is, “same time it has been all year.”

Kids are the best to use sarcasm with. And I’ll tell you why…because they don’t understand it. Their response to my bratty comment back to their question is always, “oh.” Then they skip away happily repeating my response to their friends. It is great and hilarious and they don’t even know it.

Having strict timing for everything keeps me accountable, keeps the kids knowledgable, and is helpful to everyone around us, why the heck wouldn’t everyone want to plan every detail their lives?

Well because strict schedules are the worst, and here’s why:

  • they only work until they don’t.

Yep, another paradox.

Children NEVER do what you want them to do. Haven’t you ever noticed that? Okay, maybe I shouldn’t say NEVER, because…

see you on my birthday, boo.

but rarely can you get five-year-olds to do what you want. Especially 29 of them.

As soon as a child actually wants to stick to the schedule and understands the schedule is the exact moment you need to switch it up. Then, it’s meltdown central.

Uh, Miss Boyer, it’s not time to do math, you FORGOT WRITING!

Why do we have to go to an assembly, it’s read to self time?!

An extra recess?! We aren’t doing MATH?

It is funny and aggravating all in the same. But we must learn to float and work with what we have. So as much as I want to teach my kids to follow a schedule, understand time constraints, and be able to predict their day, I also want them to realize the importance of fluidity and going with the flow.

ALRIGHT, I do it for my sake too.

Having a wrench thrown in my day to offset my schedule makes my type A eye twitch.


So guess how I am doing with the unstructure (yep, made that word up) of summer break? You know what, actually not bad. I am embracing every moment of it. Stress does no one any good. Especially not me. My body is the first to let me know. My health goes south real quick when I am overly stressed. In this case, I am learning that it is okay to not know where I am going to be at every moment. Each summer, I think I get better at this. But then this summer I decided to get a summer job, working on the weekends, for two men, who are less than structured. They are teaching me more about life than they  even know.

Each week, you’d think I’d show up to do the same thing, at the same time…


Every weekend, I call them to check in just so I can be sure that we are all on the same page. I don’t mind it, obvs, it calms my mind to put structure and routine to the job.

I like to say it is because it’s two middle-aged, single men running the company, over the fact that I am so rigid, that they are so easy-going. To give you an example, they decided after my first day working, that they would like to hire me on for more responsibility, and I had to set up my own training day. Seriously, I don’t mind these small deeds to help me plan my future…but what happens when a small deed ruins the planning of my future?

Do I throw a fit and meltdown like my kindergartners?

I hope not.

Do I let it ruin my day?


Do I let it change the planning of my future life?

I’m working on it.

When life sets you off track or you are having an off day, what is the most cliche statement you hear?

Look for the silver lining.

What if I don’t want to look for the silver lining? I don’t want second place, just because things aren’t going the way I’d hoped they would. I want to believe that things aren’t going as planned, because there is something better out there that I couldn’t even see for myself. Much like my students being upset I am changing math time, to recess. Or taking away writing for the day to do an art project.

I want first place, I want the golden lining.

They say that the term silver lining comes from looking at the sun behind the clouds, you can see a silver glow, lining the clouds. This is how you know that the sun is just waiting to emerge from the darkness of the storm clouds. That’s all fine and good, but has anyone gone to the Olympics only hoping to take home the silver? I dare you to ask Michael Phelps if he would be just as happy with 26 silver medals, instead of 23 of them being gold. I bet you he will say no.

Then I was looking at the sunset and noticed that yesterday, the lining was golden. The sun was setting, about to be the darkness of night, but a small visual reminder that there can always be a golden lining. There are still chances of being first place in your race of life, even though it seems to be getting darker minute by minute.

As Bianca Olthoff once said,

Run yo’ Race!

& get first place. 🥇

Be kind to yourself when things seem grim. Holding too many expectations only let’s you become disappointed when they don’t pan out.

Be able to let go of your plans and expectations, because something even better might happen. You just have to let life happen sometimes. Because it will all look the same in the rearview mirror.


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synchronistical summer

Listening to: So Close by Tom Misch and Carmody

To build off of my post from last week, let’s talk about my paradoxical summer. I have been getting up earlier than I ever have on a summer break. I have been able to get a lot more done and feel much more accomplished at the end of each week. I can count my blessings and tasks completed while remembering the fun I have had within each day. It has been great.

I am terrified of summer running by me at the blink of an eye.

I am making sure that my days are feeling productive and my time is well managed.


I recently learned about the word synchronistic and became obsessed with it.

Wiki Definition

I like this word because I feel like this is life, right? Not everything can be explicitly explained like we hope. Us as a human race want explanations for everything with hard evidence. It is hard for us to wrap our minds around “it is what it is.” Yet Carl Jung has been able to explain it, without actually explaining anything. A meaningful coincidence is such a paradoxical thought. It creates meaning, without meaning. It creates a relationship where there wasn’t one. If you are a spiritual person, you could say this is being done by a higher power, if you aren’t, you could say it’s merely coincidence – yet now it means something. 

What is this something though? Unknown

I guess it depends on your mood, your placement in life, your emotional stability…it depends on YOU.

Remember a couple weeks ago I was trying to let things go when they don’t go my way? The same practices will come into play with how much you let these synchronistic events mean something to you. Things can be what you make them, I have always been a true believer in that statement. I had an ex-boyfriend who didn’t like going to parties with me and my friends (there are many other reasons why he is now an ex.) He would say, “I don’t want to go because it is going to be awkward.” And every time I would tell him that it is only as awkward as he makes it. If he would make a conscious effort to engage in conversation that was appealing to him, then presto, more enjoyable.

I try to remember this advice for myself and try to teach my students about perspective of life. As I said last week, you need to take charge of your life and this week I am also going to say, take charge of your emotions. Do not let little synchronistic events ruin your day. These types of events can be so meaningful in the best of ways, but they can also tear down progress. Which effect would you rather let it have? I would assume we all choose the latter.

I preach this advice to my students all the time. Changing your attitude is everything and life is all about perspective. They find the most every day tasks or routines cumbersome and act like I asked them to do the requirements of a high school AP class. I always try to tell them to change their attitude on things, or look at things from a different view. Sometimes it works, most of the time it doesn’t. But they always get the job done. It may take ten minutes, it may take two days, but, hey, progress is all I can ask for. The last thing I want to do to both you and my kindergarten students is to negate ANY type of progress forward. I don’t want anyone to hate something that they once loved doing by over working it. This is something that is harder to teach to their parents, than it is them. Slow progress is better than no progress. Enjoy yourself in the process.

We need to save the kids in us, & we need to save the kids around us. –Kino Aquino

grow through what you go through

I am hoping that through my bucket list and maybe getting out of my comfort zone a bit the summer, I will be placed amongst some meaningful coincidences.

Have you ever sat next to someone on the airplane that you had so much in common with? Or struck up a conversation with a stranger who gave you some of the best advice? Stumbled upon the prettiest view or cutest shop or best restaurant while wandering aimlessly by yourself? These are a few of my favorite things.


So let’s not have just a paradoxical summer, but also hope these paradoxes will create synchronism in our lives. And promise me that you will let them better you and teach you a great something in the process.

You might not be exactly where you want to be, but at least you are actively trying to change, and grow, and move forward in life.


Mel bIMG_0289

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paradoxical summer

Listening to: “New Year” by Regina Spektor

Now that I have no where to be in the morning, it is great to wake up and not worry about rushing off first thing. I can take my time a little more getting ready in the morning. I am not one of those angry people who get frustrated in traffic, speeding past people, flipping other’s off, and cutting in front of cars only to beat them to the traffic or red light. It is really refreshing to just be an observer of these types of things in the morning. Granted, I did give a guy a thumbs up for flipping off another guy; I can appreciate, I am just glad that I am not a part of it.

I want to be this relaxed in traffic all the time. Not that my seven minute commute through suburbia creates a lot of traffic at 7:30 am, but just saying.

I consistently run late. It’s a known thing, to no one’s fault but my own. I like to dilly-dally. Then, when I am already running late, I have to find my keys.

…because I’m looking for my keys.

I have ONE place that I try to leave my keys when they are not in use, but a lot of the time I put them somewhere else that I think I will remember…I don’t.

I find it alarming that you all are learning to be mindful from someone who misplaces her keys DAILY (no seriously, it’s a real problem), but I also thank you for trusting in what I have to say :). 

Here are some places I’ve found my keys after looking for a good five minutes:

  • the counter
  • my desk
  • my purse

I mean come on, that’s bad. I go through these daily routines without even thinking. This is NOT practicing mindfulness. It is quite the opposite.

I have found that I misplace things more frequently when I am very busy. When I am running from place to place, dropping by home only to grab more things, drop leftovers off, feed my cat, etcetera, etcetera. It is hard to be mindful in habits that are so involuntary to our bodies. Think of all the things you do EVERYDAY; brushing teeth, showering, eating, driving to and from, so on and so forth. Now think of how much better head space you can create if you do something or productively think about something with all that time.

I am actively and intentionally trying to get the most out of the time I have.

I told you in my first post, that my word of 2017 is intentional. And if you look up quotes on being intentional, you can find positive, affirming images; but there are also ones that remind you that intention is only half of it. Your actions MUST match your intentions to make your intentions meaningful and authentic.

Now that I am out of school for the summer, I am working on getting plenty of relaxation and fun, yet also try to keep to some sort of routine. It is so easy for me to fall out of step of a normal routine, while on this 74, now 70, day “weekend”. Some summers I have been known to sleep until noon, stay in my pajamas all day, or stay up until all hours of the night doing who knows what…This summer, I’ve decided to do things a little bit different.

I am trying to have a paradoxical summer.

I am still allowing myself to rest, but not by sleeping for hours on end. I am still having fun and spending lots of time with friends, but not spending tons of money doing so. I want to be intentional with my time and money, because it is limited.

I am trying to spend money more mindfully; yet I have my non-negotiables, such as coffee while I blog on Monday mornings or birthdays. I came home from IKEA last week with about eight containers that I have nothing to do with, they are just sitting stacked up on my desk. EIGHT empty containers. SMH at myself. I’m sure at some point I will find use for them, but it is a bit ridiculous.

Here are some things I am doing to commit to my word of the year: intentional.

  • While I am getting ready in the morning, or driving from place to place, I listen to podcasts. It puts me in a much better mood than constantly flipping through songs or radio stations.
  • When I find something I want to buy I think: Do I need to buy a gift for someone else? Do I have immediate use for this item? Can I live without this article of clothing? Is there something I already own that is similar?
  • I am utterly selfish with my time and where I spend it or who I spend it with. I have always been the type of person who says, “I don’t do anything I don’t want to do.” This gets me in trouble sometimes, it is a balance I am working on.
  • With idle time at home, I try to always be doing something productive: reading, journaling, laundry, writing, something.

What are you doing to get the most out of your time?

Life is all about perspective, and you are only as irritable as you make yourself, busy as you want to be, and as broke as you allow yourself to become.

Allow yourself to be rich in experiences, happiness, friendship. Take charge of your time, energy, and resources, before they take charge of you.

This all being said, who is going to help me intentionally knock things off my summer bucket list?

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Today’s blog post is very short and narrow. It is something I want to make sure I am doing regularly. Just like how I am technically on summer break, I am going to still keep a routine of getting up on Mondays (minus yesterday). I want to make sure that I am regularly showing my followers thanks and appreciation.

For those of you that don’t know me all that well, I love to make combo words. I’m much like Sterling Archer in that sense. Exhibit A:


So today I come to you on a gratitudesday, because I would like to show you a ton of gratitude on this Tuesday. Gratitudesday is pretty self explanatory, but just thought I’d help you out.

I took yesterday “off” to spend the holiday with friends and get some errands done. (I also spent way more money than I needed, but I got a LOT of really cute things :)) Plus gratiMONDAY just doesn’t roll of the tongue quite as swiftly.

I feel so blessed that you have come back each week to read what I write. A lot of people have come to me or sent me emails helping me to improve my writing, give me compliments, to tell me how much my writing has helped them…and I can’t even begin to explain to you how much that means to me!

Starting this new venture has been intimidating and very scary at times. I have been very hesitant to lay some hard truths and private information out to the inter webs and unknown people. I mean, come on, there are people out in the world that I may never meet that now know more about me than some of my family (I thought this before it was proven to me at church on Sunday, “wow I’m learning about this deeper side of Mel and it’s great”).

It has been a slow, uphill battle to gaining followers and subscribers and getting views and what not (that was a lot of ands, oh well). But like I learned at church this week, GROWTH TAKES TIME. I must never forget this. (Also, as I typed this, I looked at the time realizing it was almost time to go to work and I mumbled, “I hate how quickly time goes…” Time is the biggest double edged sword, catch 22 situation that has ever been created.)

Much like my post on teacher depreciation, I want to make sure that my viewers and subscribers always know how thankful and appreciative I am for the comments, feedback, critique, follows, shares, subscriptions, etc. If you all promise to keep coming back, I would love to do giveaways and contests soon. You are going to be my special subscribers who can say that you have been following me from the beginning, so when I start going places in life🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽, you will be there with me every step of the way. You are also the ones though that will keep me grounded, so that you never get missed and you always feel appreciated!

I currently have 34 followers subscribed to my blog. My first contest (disclaimer: it might contain some homework) will be when I hit 50 followers! I will be giving away a book or journal of sorts to help you with your mindful journey, the exact details will be announced when I hit that 50 followers. Then I will do another one at 100 followers and so on and so forth.

So share my blog with your friends, family, and coworkers and let’s do the dang thing! Click the sharrow (get it, share+arrow) on FB, hit retweet on Twitter, or repost on Instagram and let’s get a giveaway going.


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bucket enlisting

Listening to: 8 (circle) by Bon Iver 🎶

Four days and counting, four days and counting, four days and counting. I can do this…deep breaths.

As the school year comes to an end on Thursday, I reevaluate things that I need to do during my recovery season of summer break. This process is very similar to a New Year’s Resolution. I think of what needs to be accomplished to have a fresh start to the new school year. A lot of teachers look at summer break as a reboot. I’m telling you, teachers NEED this time in order to get their mental state back to stable and healthy for another school year (so I don’t want to hear about how lucky we are to get this time off, speaking for all of us, we’d like to see you try to do our job for a week!) Teachers who work in year-round schools, I don’t know how you do it!

I’ve gathered data from your homework (those five of you who turned it in, you get an A+) and got some great insight. I’ve told you, the thing I love about mindfulness is that the practice routine is rooted in what works best for you! I am not a good rule follower, I will always find ways to stretch the boundaries…but here are some of the practices that you have found successful to help clear your mind, stay in the moment, and get in better touch with your inner selves:

  • journaling (dreams, thoughts, end of the day, gratitude…)
  • daily/hourly reminds from mindfulness apps (click here for top rated apps – my favorite is Chill as referenced in last week’s post)
  • fidgets/doodling in order to keep your mind from wandering in work meetings
  • breathing exercises
  • being active about not making excuses for something you want to do that you know will bring you joy
  • making time to exercise, take walks, meditate
  • taking five minutes in the morning when you first wake up to energize your brain or right before you go to bed to quiet your mind by doing a body scan – checking in with yourself to see how you feel in the current moment
  • intentionally planning “me-time

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Me time is what I am most looking forward to this summer. I was really good at it last summer, but I was also in a much different place in life; I was happily single, living alone, not working, it was amazing. It is hard to keep up with that during the work year. One of the hardest parts about teaching is leaving work at work. It just is not one of those jobs where this is possible. If it isn’t grading, it’s planning, it’s report cards, it’s regret from how you handled a situation, it’s anxiety about how you should handle a situation, it’s creating worksheets, it’s coordinating field trips, conferences, testing, etc, etc, etc. Sometimes the job is never ending.

Only five years in, I have gotten pretty good at leaving work at work, for the summer at least. Because I am a super anal and OCD, Type A person (I’ve told you this…) I’ve been able to get everything that I need to get done completed when I leave on the last day. Then, I attentively make a plan for when we go back to work in August for what needs to happen in order to be prepared for the start of the school year.

But this summer, I am a very different person than I was just twelve months ago and I need to reconfigure this season of recharge. Your contribution to how you stay mindful really sparked some ideas on how I can continue my practice while being disassembled from routine and how I have known to be functional for my life in the past.

There are some habits I want to break and some habits I want to make this summer.


I intend to live deeply this summer. And thus, my first intentional task this summer, is to create bucket list. A list of things that I want to do and see and feel while I have time on my hands, things that I couldn’t find time to do in the past nine months. Sometimes you have to create happiness in your life, and I whole heartedly intend to do that for myself over the next three months.

No matter where you are in your life, I think you should always find time to do the things you love, things that will make you happy, things you make excuses to put off until next week/month/year or until you have more money…find a way to do all of the things you want in the now. You won’t ever regret spending time and money on experiences that you’ve always wanted to do, but I’m positive you will regret not doing them.

Join me in creating a summer bucket list, even if you don’t get a summer break, this is the season to take charge of how you feel.

If you don’t make the time creating the life you want, you’re eventually going to be forced to spend a LOT of time dealing with a life you don’t want.  -Kevin Ngo

I am enlisting you to add to my summer bucket list click HERE. I’d love to see your thoughts and ideas for me! I feel like Olaf, skipping along pumped for summer, join me won’t you?


But now remember what I said last week about constantly looking forward to things instead of living in the present…try to add deadlines to your list so you actually get them done instead of just hoping to get them done.

Don’t take NO for an answer, even if it’s coming from yourself, get this sh*t done. ✔️🏆🙌🏽

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what are we waiting for?

Listening to: There’s Nothing Holdin’ Me Back by Shawn Mendes 🎶

Last week was not a good week…

I apologize for being a complainer lately, but better for me to be real than to pretend that all is well, right? Well shoot, maybe this is why I’m getting less and less views each week! Oh well, here I go.

Last week was not a good week. We had end of the year testing, planning and coordinating two field trips for the last week of school, getting ready for field day this week, spirit week, and not to forget, regular daily academics! Let me just tell you, it is harder to get five and six year olds to sit quietly for longer than thirty seconds in May, than it is to ask them to identify all their alphabet and numbers in August. Most days this week consisted of “UGH”s around 9:30am (school starts at 8:40), double doses of coffee, bathing in my Peace and Cheer essential oil roller balls, and my friends talking me off of ledges during lunch break. It was rough. I’m not proud of how I talked to my kids this week, but they need to know, they have NINE days to prove to me that they are going to be ready for first grade, they we are falling apart at the seams.

It is hard to teach kids when you, the teacher, has May brain. For those of you who are not teachers, or parents of school-age children, May brain is comparable to senioritis. Now that I have my kids tested out for the end of the year, it is hard to focus on learning. It’s like having to show up to THREE more weeks of class after you just finished finals. I just want to do fun things all day, errrday. But on account of being afraid of ranking down on my final evaluation, I have been doing my best to keep a schedule and academic routine. For the sake of all of us involved, I have been incorporating fun writing tasks (pen pal letters, Mother’s and Father’s day gifts, letters to their teacher next year), reading fun new stories I received from the book fair, and making science feel like play time. While trudging along I have been looking towards the light at the end of the tunnel. I can’t state it enough, NINE…*YAY* only nine more days until summer break. I CANNOT wait for summer and here’s why: I’ve got so many fun plans happening!

  • Super fun and flexible job selling wine at farmers markets
  • A week in Dallas with family and friends (& hopefully visiting Magnolia Market)
  • Kendrick Lamar concert
  • 10 days in Thailand with some of my closest friends
  • Justin Bieber concert (judge me, it’s fine, we all have our guilty pleasures)
  • Plenty of time to relax and refresh myself while doing WHATEVER I want sans children

There are so many things to be excited for in the coming months, I can hardly stand it. This past week, these are the things that kept me going through my frustration, sadness, and even anger. I feel like my summer bucket list is dangling on a fishing hook while I am running on this never ending treadmill month of May. I was daydreaming about my must do’s for the summer and what I really want to make sure to do, people I want to make sure to connect with, goals for this blog while I have more time and energy, etc; when I realized my kids were becoming unruly during independent reading *cough it was 9am*. If I had an out of body experience during that moment, it would have looked like a slightly tamer version of that commercial…and I only say more tame because I don’t have a fish tank in my classroom. When I am in my right mind, I dislike that commercial very much and here’s why: the teacher is risking children’s safety while being seemingly inproficient of managing, what looks like, a total of fifteen students. I actually kind of hated her, until I realized I was her at that moment. This is when I got a notification on my phone:


It seems that the cosmos always send you exactly what you need at exactly the right time, this was definitely one of those times. How can I look forward to something in the future when I am not seizing the moment I am in? I might look back and totally regret not engaging in the time being. I was purely anxiously anticipating moments in the future and I could have totally missed out on a moment in the present.


Five and six year olds say some pretty freaking funny things. There are times when I hear a conversation between two of my students and I am so happy that I was eavesdropping because of what I hear. I once heard one of my little girls telling off a little boy who was butting into her business. I kid you not, these were her words: “This doesn’t even concern you, is this your problem? No it’s not, so you should mind your own business.” I wanted to squeeze her for using her verbal skills to reason with why he shouldn’t be talking. Numerous times I have been able to catch students reading in a variety of characters’ voices (the troll from Three Billy Goats gruff is one of my faves), telling a friend what their weekend plans are, or what mind-boggling thing their parent did this morning. It is small moments, such as these, that I go home satisfied and thrilled because I was present in the moment and was able to learn more about my students’ individual personalities. You can’t do that when you are constantly daydreaming of better things to come.

Better is a relative term.

You never know if what you are anticipating is actually going to be better, until you experience it.

I just started reading Present over Perfect by Shauna Niequist. I couldn’t have started reading it at a more perfect time in my life, or should I say present time. She refers to a total life transformation as a “sea-change.” She talks about getting swept away by the hustle of the world and the busyness of work, families, friends, etc. In order to undergo a sea-change, you must surface from the tidal wave of life and find a feeling of groundedness. I am only 34 pages in, but fully engaged and benefiting from each and every page. I am ready for another sea-change in my life. I want my frustrations to feel simplistic. I want to find healing and groundedness. There is no way to do that when you are not present in your daily life. You need to take note to how you are feeling in the moment and not disregard your current feelings and emotions. The last thing I want to do is become numb to who I am. Therefore I am going to become actively present in the coming days and react to exactly what I am feeling. In doing this, I will be able to interact with my students, coworkers, and friends in a more meaningful manner.

One of my biggest takeaways in my five years of college was this:


If I’m detached in my interactions, my audience will be detached. If I show my frustration, my students will only continue their frustrating behavior. If I want my listeners to be engaged, I need to be engaged in my presentation. I have been reflecting behaviors that that are not helpful to the well-being of my classroom temperature, and in turn nothing changes in my students’ behaviors. I realized this huge gap in my mindfulness practice this week, and as we get closer to the end of the school year, I am working hard to close the gap. My students are only going to be as engaged as I am, my students are only going to be passionate of the things they can see my passion in, and I will only receive active input when I am giving energetic output.

Even when summer comes, if I am continuing to look to the future, my whole summer will pass me by and I’ll be sitting in my classroom in August wondering where the heck my vacations went that I was so anxiously anticipating three months ago.

Take a minute each hour to assess where your state of mind is headed. Is it in the present or headed for vacation? Don’t let it leave with out you, you will be upset that it did in the long run. I promise you that.

  • Stop and smell the roses
  • Sit and watch the sunset
  • Write an affirmation you need in that moment and carry it around in your pocket
  • Look to visual reminders to how you want to feel
  • Take a walk and notice all the things around you

But don’t forget what I said, progress is all about recognition and baby steps. Don’t bite off more than you can chew! Do not be swept away by the tidal wave, sometimes it is okay to wallow in the drowning, just give yourself a time limit to feel this sorrow, and then jump back out of it.



don’t miss out on the present